Always brilliantly written my dearest Kate. What I've come to realize of late, by talking to lots of kids and professionals, is that the exclusion you refer to at school is, in fact, a form of bullying. And it lingers in subtle and insidious ways, long after the fact.

Most importantly though, is that feel free as a bird to make as much of a mess as possible. There is no right or wrong way, to do this and from someone who came out in my mid 20's, I can tell you that the belonging comes from within. And also know that an entire messy, mixed-up, flawed, fractured, brilliant, magnificent and beautiful bunch of people we call a community actually has your back, and will love, support and embrace you whether you're flying or flaling.